In 2010 I returned to work after maternity leave following my first born. I could not have been more happy to be returning to work and felt like I could get my life back on track. My pregnancy and maternity leave had been a very difficult period of time and I felt very disappointed and guilty that I had not enjoyed the experience as i should of done or was expected to. I had been in a very difficult relationship with a man who was struggling with alcohol dependancy, we were in a lot of debt and the stress got to me. I suffered with post natel depression which if I’m honest with myself lasted roughly three and a half years in total. I also had my second child during this period. I was under a lot of pressure and had no idea how to help myself. My pride stopped me from asking for help from others and the thought of admitting i couldn’t cope was too much to bare.
So I returned to work and got stuck in to my responsibilities. I performed very well and was placed on a programme for very talented employees who go above and beyond in their job. On this programme I was introduced to the book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. This book changed my world and started my journey of personal development.
My life became much improved after I was able to deal with my own issues and let go of the things i couldn’t change in other people. I got through my PND and I am now happy in my relationship and have been able to support my partner and we have come out the other side stronger than ever. I’m not saying that everything is perfect, but we take things one day at a time. There is always room for improvement in any relationship and as you can see I am not a quitter!
I have two wonderful children. Daddy’s Little Princess (DLP) is 6 and Mummy’s Little Soldier (MLP) is 5. MLP was diagnosed with Autism this earlier this year, so this is another adventure we are experiencing as a family.
I have found that I can keep my self flowing nicely along by making sure that four areas of my life are in balance. These are my four motivations.
On each of these pages you will find a checklist where you can assess how you are doing and see where you can make improvements. It is very helpful when you’re not sure where to start.
Although I have been through some difficult times, this blog is not intended as a space to be negative and such stories will only be included briefly for context. I want this blog to be positive and uplifting and proof that if we put in the effort we really can get through difficult times and there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.
This blog will be about my journey, my life and how I am attempting to become a better, stronger person, partner, and mother. I have decided to record this journey to help me stay on track and to have some accountability.
I would love to hear about other people’s journeys. So please share your experiences with me or join me on mine. I certainly could use all the help I can get. I think we all can!